Feb 13, 2011
I've decided I will not be attending the 2012 Family Reunion in Germany, if there is one. There are a number of reasons.
The Germans don't sound all that enthused to be planning it. Every time one of them talks about it they make it sound like they'll do it if they have to but suggest that we end on a good note since the 2007 was so awesome it will be hard to beat. It takes a lot of work to plan these reunions. I don't want to force somebody to do it.
I've been to Germany four times in my life (five if you count the time I was 2). It's understandable since I have so much family there but I want to see new places. I want to go to Ireland and Scotland. My husband really wants to see Italy. Even though I'm not a beach person I would like to visit Hawaii. How are we ever going to experience these awesome places if every "big" trip takes us back to Germany.
The biggest reason I don't want to go to the reunion is that several of the relatives there have made it quite clear they don't really like me. One of them to the point of being downright rude and mean about it. Granted, he's only a relative by marriage but you know what, I don't have to subject myself to it and I certainly don't have to do it when it's going to cost me thousands of dollars to do so.
Don't get me wrong. I don't have to be liked by everybody. I know I'm not everybody's cup of tea. I can be loud and obnoxious, socially awkward, a know-it-all....... somebody please stop me.... because I could go on and on. But I do expect the common decency of politeness, especially in a family setting. I don't expect that I'll get it in Germany. I actually expect it to be pretty bad since he'll have an audience. He's a mean and petty little man and rather than bring it to the point of confrontation that it is inevitably moving towards, I would rather just avoid the situation altogether.
I'll spend my time with the people I enjoy being around and who enjoy my company, or at least do a passable job of pretending they do.
God, my blog is so serious these days. I should just get a therapist.