Jun 8, 2009
Its Been Gr8
When my daughter wanted to break up with one of her high school boyfriends she asked me what I thought about doing it over the phone. My response was “NO WAY”. When you break up with somebody, you do it in person. You show them the respect of telling them face-to-face. Breaking up over the phone is the coward’s way out. I think she realized the wisdom of this advice a few years later when she was on the receiving end of a breakup. The self centered jerk did it by phone.
My niece is going through her first breakup right now. Her mother and sister are doing their best to console her, helping her to transition from sorrow to anger to acceptance and finally relief. She should be relieved. You want to know how her boyfriend broke up with her? By AOL instant message. That’s right. He sent her an IM that said… blah, blah, blah…..…. We’ve grown apart…… blah, blah, blah. Do these boys have no honor?
The growing trend of breaking up via IM or text is a symptom of a couple of troubling trends in our society.
#1 We avoid uncomfortable situations at all costs. Who cares how it makes the other person feel? I get to do it in the least painful way for me. And aren’t I really most important in this whole thing?
#2 We are losing our social skills. - Sort of ironic isn’t it that “social networking” is making it easier and more acceptable to act in unsociable ways. It is so much easier to be rude and outrageous when you are behind a keyboard.
I guess you could make the argument that breaking up by IM or text is no different than breaking up by phone. I disagree. At least with a phone call you have to speak the words and you have to hear the response from the other person. There’s a human connection there. That’s what makes us social beings......our ability to connect with people. God help us if we lose that.